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Mother and Child

A gripping tale of the primal urge of a mother to find her kin. And for a kin to find her mother. In this day and age, is finding where you really came from important, or more so, a matter of life and death? Modern thinking seem to elude us of the sentimentality of the importance of getting to know your roots, where you are and where you came from. I guess more than the emotion of wanting to be complete, and of wanting to piece your identity into a whole, the importance of finding where you came from is an urge, a need, a primal urge that has been evident with all living things ever since the world begun.

One thing I noticed in the characters are their reactions to abandonment. The character Elizabeth, became a cold, take charge dominatrix who uses sex to punish men and the people around her. Her pent up anger for being abandoned and given away gave her so much motivation to alienate and look down at unknowing people.

As I was brainstorming with myself, I realized that a common kind of reaction of an adopted child would be to please people so much, to try to do anything and everything in her power for people to like her, so that people won't give her away like her mother did. This is evident, at least in local movies and television. This kind of character has the workings of a heroine. But again, heroines can get really bland at most times.

Another kind of reaction would be a character with abandonment issues - someone who thinks that she may not be good enough, an insecure character whose satisfaction and victories depend on how other people see her and regard her victories. The kind whose satisfaction depend on the approval of other people.

Among the three reactions, what made the movie unique in a way is the kind of edgy characterization given to Elizabeth. That's the initial hook of the story.

Back to the movie. I believe that what the movie suggests is the impact of this tragedy upon the people involved. It also suggests that motherhood is a natural thing and people who have not experienced it might be in trouble later in life. The lack of touch and care of a mother might make a person cold and impersonal.

The movie also made a harsh critique on adoption. Nowadays, when you're unable to conceive, you can have easily adopt. With a number of babies being abandoned by their mothers, . It is a widely accepted phenomenon made even cooler by various celebrities who are adopting from third world countries. But this movie made me think: is adoption really an unnatural thing?

Sentimental, and unnatural yes. It is like stealing the time and opportunity of the child to spend time with her biological daughter.

Practical yes, compassionate, yes.

However, the movie did not actually show adoption in a critical light.What transpired is a mere and slight discussion about it. And the reality is, even if "the time spent with each other is more important than blood", there are still some people who regard adoption as if it were taboo. People think, why would I want to take care of a complete stranger?

See even if adopted babies are not the flesh and blood of the parents, it is still our duty as human beings to take care of one another. The primal might overcome the societal benefits of adoption. I'm for it. In fact, I never actually thought that it was an issue until this movie. Which for me, is an eyeopener. A truth like cold water splashed on the face.

the rise and fall of my sloppy love

and i won't get enough until my legs are broken

a promise to myself

I've been reading a book and I would kill you if I had to tell you the title but what I like with this book is that it gave me this wonderful epiphany.

We should keep a promise to ourselves. Whatever kind of promise that is. If we promise to go to the gym daily, we must commit. If we promise to eat healthy daily, we must commit. Without broadcasting it to the world. For how can we make a promise to other people if we cannot even keep a promise to ourselves?

Private victories are more important that public ones. If you rely on external forces that validate your existence then you are in so much trouble.

Be an in-out person. Resolve everything inside -all the issues before radiating outward.

self help junkie

7 habits of highly effective people

48 laws of power

ask for the moon and get it

how to turn your thoughts into things

what is your emotional iq

eat pray love (?)

Mars and Venus on a date

just some new titles on my bookshelves.

shit i am really turning into one

Tagaytay Epiphany

I went to Tagaytay over the weekend with my friends Ivy and Riza. We commuted to Sonya's Garden and then to Magallanes Square. It was a lovely weekend. Now they know how to go to Tagaytay by bus!

It was a cold night, at daming couples everywhere. It was saddening but at the same time, I'm kinda excited because I know the future has a surprise for me within the year. I can feel it! And i don;t want just any other guy. Hehe anyway, this is not a bitter post about love. I have a nice anecdote about this trip. Read on.

So anyway after Sonya's, we rode the jeep to the Magallanes Square where all the restos and cafes are. After coffee, it was time to go back to Manila. At 9 pm. Virtually no bus, no nothing! We don't want to ride the jeep as it was too scary!

We kinda likened the situation to finding a guy. We were waiting for the ideal ride (Bus) but it seemed na jeeps lang ang meron sa lugar na yun and a lot of them! Choosy pa ba kami eh we need to go home na?

In fairness to the three of us, we didn't settle for the jeeps. We waited and waited. Until the right and unexpected kind of ride led us home. =)

And no it wasn't a bus.

It was a private van ala FX taxi with scheduled rides from Tagaytay to Dasmarinas, Cavite.

See? it wasn't even an option. But it took us home. And it was way better than the bus or the jeep.

We didn't think it was the right choice until it was presented to us. We weren't waiting for it until it arrived. That's the beauty of the unexpected!

Pinoy Travel Bloggers: Blog Carnival

http://pinaywandergirl.blogspot.com/2011/02/most-romantic-place-is-place-where-ive.html

I'm so excited! I was given a chance to write about The Most Romantic Place! I'm torn between Marinduque and Iloilo, but I gave Iloilo a shot because it was the place where I roamed around on my own. I fell in love with the place and with traveling alone!

I'm so thankful to the bloggers of PTB. Astig kayo and you're very open and accommodating. If ever you're reading this, I reach out to all of you! Thanks!

Scmalentines

Can somebody tell me what the hell is wrong with this message exchange below????

how are you? you are thin now? wow.. amazing talaga at maraming lalaki may gusto sayo eh. hehehehe have a nice day!

Bridgette Rebuca 10 February at 18:08

hahaha im not yet thin haha. Going there. Naggy-gym pa. Haha. My photo's misleading coz it's just my face! Haha. How are you?

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ah akala ko ehehehe. mabuti naman.. Cool

mommy

we drove mommy to the airport yesterday.

it's sad but not super sad as in bawling my eyes kind of sad. it's poignant. i don't know. i feel as if i am saying goodbye yet i know we're not truly away from one another.

there's videochat and the frequent calls. it's like she's still around me after all.